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5 Simple Steps To A Stress-Free Recital Day

You know your child’s ready – and so do they.

They’ve practiced performing their piece – in front of other people.

They know they have your absolute and full support – no matter what.

Nothing could possibly go wrong now.

Or could it?

No matter how well-prepared you think you are for their recital day, there’s nothing like having a late start to the morning, finding milk all over the kitchen floor and receiving a frantic message from your in-laws (they’re lost!) to jolt you out of your calm mood and into full-blown crazy mode.

Recital mornings aren’t always sunshine and rainbows, but if you take these five steps, you’ll be on your way to an easier and exciting day.

1. Get all hands on deck

Almost every parent makes the massive mistake of taking on all the stress of recital day on their own shoulders. Of course, it’s all done with good intentions. You don’t want to worry anyone. It’s better if your child focuses all their attention on their performance. You can handle it – it’s nothing!

But this never ends well.

You’re scrambling around, calling back relatives, and baking cupcakes for the reception mere hours before you have to leave.

Give yourself a break and ask for help. You deserve it.

It’s also a great way to get everyone excited about the big day. Kids who feel involved cooperate easier, which means they’re more likely to work together on recital day. And less whining and more cooperation is always a plus, no matter what your family’s preparing for.

2. Choose clothing choices now

You know the drill.

One of your kids can’t find their shoes, another’s lost a sock and someone forgot to iron a wrinkled dress shirt last night.

Cue the whining and the whimpering – MOOOOOOooooooooooooooom!

Everyone needs to know what they’re wearing on recital day – not just the musician in the house. This way there are no worries about who’s wearing what and where it is. If an outfit needs to be washed or dry-cleaned, you’ll have plenty of time to get it ready for recital day.

Lay out everything the night before the performance so the next day goes smoothly, and no one’s scrambling around at the last minute.

3. Decide what you’ll bring

No parent wants to find out their camera is dead minutes before they capture their child’s performance. And you don’t have time to turn around to go back home and grab the dessert you forgot to bring for the reception.

Make sure everything’s charged the night before. That includes cameras, phones, and even games for the kids. They’ll need some entertainment between the lulls and pauses of the recital.

If you have a dish or dessert to add to the reception table, go ahead and make a note of it days before you dash out of the door. Put sticky notes on the fridge or make an alarm on your phone – whatever works for you!

This is the perfect time to make a reminder for the extra items, too. Whether you need to stash extra strings in their instrument case or diapers in the bag for your youngest family member, make a list of all the little things that will make the day feel (almost) effortless.

4. Make arrangements

To have a stress-free recital day, you don’t want to rush to the venue. You also don’t want every family member and friend calling your phone at all hours of the morning, asking you how to get there and where to park.

You want to handle all of this beforehand.

Give directions to your guests as soon as possible. Include what time they should be there, where they should sit and what places are acceptable to park. This way no one can tell you they “never got that email” and they “don’t know what you’re talking about!

Allow yourself plenty of time to get there in case you get caught in traffic or the sky decides to fall (pssst…bring an umbrella just in case).

5. Let go of the little things

No recital day is absolutely perfect.

Brace yourself for something to go wrong. Hopefully, it’s a little thing. More than likely, it will be something you didn’t plan. A small inconvenience that feels not-so-small at the time, but in hindsight, a non-issue you’ll laugh about later.

Take it all in stride. Because what really matters to your child doesn’t have to do with creating the perfect “by-the-book” recital day.

It’s knowing that the people who love them are taking the time to watch them perform a piece of music they could never play last year – let alone play in front of a giant group of strangers they’ve never met. It’s about being there, celebrating their progress, and having fun together.

Chances are, you’ve seen the good, the bad, and the ugly on their musical journey. This is a proud moment for you.

In music, as in life, there are times we must walk on stage, face the music, and keep playing. Because proving to ourselves we can is more important than letting fear stand in our way.

Most musicians have their shaky moments before going onstage. Even the professionals.

Do they let their nerves and stress stop them from playing? Nope.

But it’s not because they don’t feel nervous…it’s because they’ve worked too hard and practiced too much to turn back now.

So look your child in the eye, give them a smile and tell them to “go on out there, and show em’ what you’ve got.”

There’s a crowd out here, and we’re waiting to be wowed.

It’s showtime.

P.S. Did you catch the other recital prep posts? Click below to read the rest of the seres!

Ready, Set, Record! The Foolproof Way To Prove To Your Musical Child They’re Recital Ready…Without Lying

Kiss Their Stage Fright Goodbye With This Secret

Stop The Music! Why You Should Take A Break And Do This Before The Big Day

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